Sad Little Monkeys

Dear Readers,

As you might have gathered from my last post, I'm going through a very introspective phase. In an effort to become a better person, I find that I'm becoming less and less self assured and confident and more and more anxious. This just doesn't make sense...right? Ah, but wait my dear kittens, I believe it makes perfect sense. Perhaps me being more self aware has taken away from the time I used to put into to helping others.

I learned on a very interesting PBS documentary last night that having personal relationships is sn essential component in one's health. In the same way that we must feed our body and protect it from the elements, we must nourish ourselves with friendship and love. There have been studies done where baby monkeys (I know this is awful, but the studies were done in the 50's before scientists had feelings) are given everything they need to support their physical well being (ie food, water, etc.) but were denied the company of others. You know what happened? They died.

Unlike those poor little monkeys, I have been very fortunate in the fact that I've always been surrounded by wonderful people and an excess amount of love. Strangely, the things I remember and hold on to most are the negative things said and done to me. Whether it be a grade school classmate that tormented me or a boss giving me negative feedback at work, I hold on to the things they say and replay them in my head the way Idaho radio stations play horrible 80's rock over and over again. During this the past week or so while I've been so selfishly introspective, these are the things that have been bringing me down. It annoys me how much energy I waste on these memories and on the anxiety they inevitably causes. By allowing this anxiety to grow stronger, I have to take more time for meditation to calm my self down. By the time I calm down, I'm exhausted, and I'm sure the energy I've created has helped to exhaust those around me as well.

So I quit. I don't need to sit around and think about what I've done wrong, what I can change, and what I can do better. Instead, I want to focus on loving and supporting the people I'm so lucky to have in my life. Please don't take this out if context. Professionally, I will of course do my best, whether it be folding clothes at work or baking cupcakes for a wedding at home. But personally, I need to focus on people who need my attention more than I do. I couldn't bear the thought of having sad little monkey in my life that I didn't help to nourish because I was to busy feeling bad about some stupid thing said to me in junior high.

Come to me little monkeys! I will adopt you and love you! But I will not give you cash...that you'll have to find elsewhere.

Sincerely,
h.

P.S. I wrote this on an iPad, please be kind about any typos that may have occured :)